This is a great article from jeff haden to start the year off right!
Want to make a huge difference in your life and in the lives of the people you care about, both professionally and personally?
Promise yourself you'll do these things every day:
1. "I will appreciate the under-appreciated."
Some jobs require more effort than skill. Bagging groceries, delivering packages, checking out customers -- the tasks are relatively easy. The difference is in the effort.
All around you are people who work hard with little or no recognition. Vow to be the person who recognizes at least one of them every day.
Do more than say "thanks" to a person who does a thankless job. Smile. Make eye contact. Exchange a kind word.
Not only will you give respect, you'll also gain the best kind of respect -- the respect that comes from making a difference, however fleeting, in another person's life.
2. "I will answer the unasked question."
For a variety of reasons -- maybe they're hesitant, or insecure, or shy -- people often ask a different question than the one they really want answered. (If you're lacking in confidence, here are simple yet powerful ways to overcome your insecurity.)
One employee might ask whether you think he should take a few business classes; what he really wants to know is whether you feel he has the potential to move up in the organization. He hopes you'll say you do have potential... and he hopes you'll share the reasons why.
Or your husband might ask if you thought the woman at the party was flirting with him; what he really wants to know is if you still find him attractive. He hopes you'll say you do... and he'll love when you share the reasons why.
Behind many questions is an unasked question.
Pay attention so you can answer that question; that is the answer the other person doesn't just want to hear... but needs to hear.
3. "I will not wait."
You don't have to wait to be discovered. You don't have to wait for an okay. You don't have to wait for someone else to help you. You can just do whatever you want to do.
You may not succeed. But you don't have to wait.
4. "I will give latitude instead of direction."
You're in charge. You know what to do. So it's natural to tell your employees - or your kids -- not only what to do but how to do it.
In the process you stifle their creativity and discount their skills and intelligence.
Letting another person decide how is the best way to show you respect their abilities and trust their judgment.
In a command-and-control world, latitude is welcome freedom... and is a gift anyone can give.
5. "I will stop and smell my roses."
You have big plans. You have big goals. You're never satisfied, because satisfaction breeds complacency. So most of the time you're unhappy because you think more about what you have not achieved, have not done, and do not have.
Take a moment and think about what you do have, professionally and especially personally. At this moment you have more than at one time you ever thought possible.
Sure, always strive for more... but always take a moment to realize that all the things you have, especially your relationships, are more important than anything you want to have.
Unlike a want, what you have isn't a hope, a wish, or a dream. What you already have is real. And it's awesome. And it's yours.
6. "I will look below the surface."
Sometimes people make mistakes. Sometimes they piss you off.
When that happens it's natural to assume they didn't listen or didn't care. But often there's a deeper reason. They may feel stifled. They may feel they have no control. They may feel frustrated or marginalized or ignored or not cared for.
If you're in charge, whether at work or at home, you may need to deal with the mistake. But then look past the action for the underlying issues.
Anyone can dole out discipline; vow to provide understanding and to actively helpanother person deal with the larger issue that resulted in the mistake.
7. "I will ensure love is always a verb."
You love your work. When you're working, that feeling shows in everything you say and do.
You love your family. When you're with them, does that feeling show in everything you say and do?
Love is a feeling, and feelings are often selfish. Turn your feelings into an action. Actively love the people you love. Show them you love them by words and deeds.
When you make love a verb, the people you care about know exactly how you feel.
8. "I will be myself."
You worry about what other people think. Yet no matter how hard you try, you can't be all things to all people.
But you can be as many things as possible to the people you love. And you can be the best you.
So above all, always yourself. That's the one thing you can always do better than anyone else.